I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking, and taking calls, about what moms really want for Mother’s Day. The wants included: to go to the bathroom by myself, sleep, for my daughters to not fight for the day, a vacation, for my kids to acknowledge the day without being told, and more. I was struck by a very young sounding mom who called in saying it was her first Mother’s Day, that her baby had been born in December. She had seen a necklace with keys on it that spelled out Mom, and it cost $15; that was what she wanted. The morning show host asked, “What’s your…ah…what’s the name of the baby’s dad?” She said “Colin” and then host, on air, told Colin to get that necklace for her. The young mom said, “He probably won’t.”
Mother’s Day is supposed to be a feel good day, and for many of us it is. But I am more and more aware that Mother’s Day can also be an awkward, sometimes hurtful kind of day. There are women who are acutely aware of their moms absence if she has passed away, and on Mother’s Day their hearts long for her voice and her touch. There are women estranged from their moms – who just wish and pray it were different. There are women who have a hard time picking out cards for their moms because all the lovey, You’re the Best cards just really don’t apply. There are the moms whose family doesn’t even get her a card or make her feel special in any way.
Then there is the young mom who just wants a $15 necklace with the word Mom on it. I wonder if what she wants is to just feel acknowledged – in her new role – as a Mom. There is the mom of 13 and 18 year old girls who longs to have them – on their own – let her know they appreciate her. I think that’s what moms really want on Mother’s Day, to know that what they are doing is noticed, and matters.
If you know of a mom who could use an I’ve noticed you, What you’re doing matters, I’m proud of you, You’re doing a good job, kind of comment or note, consider giving that to her this Mother’s Day. It may be all she really wants, or even needs, to elevate her spirit, spurring her on to keep doing what she’s doing.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing moms who read this blog! What you do every single day matters – you can be reminded of that here.